Driven parents

An essay on early lessons of being driven

Growing up, I never considered myself to be a driven individual. It was only through observing others that I possessed this characteristic much later. Yet, the question remained, how did I become driven without even realising it?

The answer to this question lies with my parents. My mother and father, through their actions and influences, instilled within me a drive to succeed and strive.

My mother, who, at the tender age of eight, lost her mother and was forced to take on responsibilities as the head of her household and caregiver to her younger sister and cousins, became a natural leader and nurturer. Despite her aspirations to become a teacher, she married young and dedicated herself to raising my siblings and me. Her unfulfilled desires fuelled her drive to see her children succeed.

On the other hand, my father, who lost his father at fifteen and had to endure financial difficulties, grew up to be a self-made man and a go-getter. He provided me with everything he could and instilled in me a sense of responsibility and resilience at a young age. With his unwavering love and support, I was confident to stand up for myself and chase my dreams.

My parents gave me a secure upbringing where I felt loved and supported without pressure to succeed. It was their indirect influence that fuelled my drive to strive.

They were my anchor. A simple event is a testament to that.

When I was a teenager, I was miserable at boarding school. I felt like I didn’t belong there and couldn’t wait to leave. They were incredibly supportive when I finally told my parents how I felt. They didn’t try to talk me out of it or make me feel guilty. They just listened and told me they would support my decision.

Their support meant the world to me. It gave me the confidence to know that I could make my own decisions and that I didn’t have to stay in a situation that wasn’t right for me. It also made me realise that I had two amazing parents who loved me and would always be there for me.

I left boarding school and lived a happy and successful life. I know that I wouldn’t be where I am today without the support of my parents. They taught me that it’s important to follow your heart and never give up on your dreams. I’m so grateful for them, and I’ll never forget how they believed in me when I didn’t believe in myself.

As a parent, I tried to emulate my parents and provide my children with the same level of love, security, and drive.

I will forever be grateful for my parents’ actions.

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